Personally, I was raised to not have a boyfriend until I finished school. The reason being was because my grandma always thought that boyfriends cause drama, and that it would be a huge distraction for school and my goals.
So, let's say you and your bf/gf go to the same school. Or maybe just a cute fella in your class that you have the biggest crush on. Do you personally think that by being in the same place as them can keep you from focusing in your academics or reaching your goals at school? Do you think of them as huge distraction? Why or why not.
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To be honest I believe it depends on the person. Some people can handle a relationship in school. Then their are the ones who let their relationship take over. Some people lose track of the main goal in school, and let drama creep into their life. They let others feel their head up with unnecessary drama from peers. Then you have the more focus people, who know that it is more important to get your education then let some high school crush or bf/gf affect their future. Not to mention when your in a relationship during school you take risk or std's and pregnancy. But at the end of the day I say kill the relationship business till your out of school. Nothing wrong with having friends, just make yourself your top priority.
ReplyDeleteHaving some eye candy in the same room can be a distraction if you let it. I mean, there comes a time when you have to take self control. If you're salivating over him and not paying attention to your instructor then you have a problem. Put yourself together little solider! But on the other hand. It can be a good thing because it (eye candy) can get your mind off of things you maybe don't want to think about at the time? Or perhaps you want a little vacation and just want to imagine? Bahahaha. Good god miguel. Yeah. That's my take on this subject.
ReplyDeleteFrom personal experience, boyfriends at school ARE DRAMA! It kept me distracted a lot.
ReplyDeleteMost of the times it was an argument we had the night before and then the next day at school I couldn't focus at all. Or he would try to talk while being at school and i would just get so annoyed and go through the rest of the day with b.s in my head.
On another note, if you were on the girls soccer team at my school, you were PROHIBITED from having boyfriends during the season. Mostly because the coach thought it would distract them from playing well. If you were caught holding hands, kissing, etc, with your man.. you would automatically get kicked out from the team.
At first I thought that was dumb. But in a way at the end, i do think it's a big distraction.
Although i never listened to my grandma :( So, sorry grandma. You know i still love you.
Yuck! This brings me back to sophomore year...
ReplyDeleteI was also raised to not date in high school because it would be a distraction, but the person that I am I thought I'd give it a try. Well it was all types of drama. My friends didn't like him (drama #1), my family didn't like him (drama #2), people in school didn't like him (drama #3), but for some reason I did? We had one class together, but he sat far from me, yet surprisingly he wouldn't distract me. The time we dated he never distracted me from school.
Any one can get distracted, but it all depends on the person. There not is not a right or wrong when it comes to distraction. Personally I can get distracted easily but I can get back on track right away, and for some people it might be different. I am a focused person and I will never let someone besides myself get in the way.
I believe that being in a relationship could be a distraction. When my ex bf and i was together we was in high school. It was senior year and everything was great. He came to my graduations meet my family, we was the happiest couple ever. But when college came around i was going to JJC (Joliet Junior College) and he wasn't in school i stayed in my own apartment and he would come over everyday. We had lots of fun but we went out everyday and ate. We both got fat from eating out everyday. Well i transferred schools and went to SSC (South Suburban College) and he started to go there with me too. I was so distracted that i had to drop one of my classes because when we left school we would always be together and i never remembered to do my homework. He would have this mind control thing that would make me feel bad if we didnt spend a day together but i never got anything accomplished when i was with him. We was together for 3 years to break up a few mouths ago because he says hes too young to be with just ONE GIRL!!!! I felt so dumb to realize that i waste 3 years of time with him when i could going into my junior year of college and got a better start at life. My lesson is that I'm not dating anymore into i graduate and God sends me my husband!!!!! My heart stills hurt!!!!! and i would never get the time i lost back!!!!!
ReplyDeletei can relate to this really well. i have had a gf's all throughout high school, one right after the other. i really never was single. but i feel like it was a huge distraction to school. i would get some of my work done but never really all of it. but if you really want a goal and you have drive, i don't think that a gf would exactly get in the way of that unless this gf is not the nicest person. i have a gf now but she is going to a different school which sucks yes but it gives me a break to concentrate more on my school work and goals and then i can reward myself by taking a small trip and going to visit her.
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ReplyDeletethat is crazy about the soccer team. i cant believe your coach did that.
@Miguel you are super silly but this is true it could be a distraction. but how would you be able to tell them that??? lol
ReplyDelete@ Britney- Trust me, i was also in a three year relationship and it was all during high school and recently just called it off. We started my sophomore year until a couple of months ago.
ReplyDeleteIt sure is a time wasted and it's sad that i will never get that time back. & my dumbself was distracted from school due to one boy.
*Smh.
@Britney 3YEARS?!?!?!?!? cheese and rice that's just nuts! i cant relate to it but i can imagine but now you learned a lesson and now i can beware of that ever happening to me.
ReplyDelete@Miguel little solider! love that part!
PERSONALLY i think any relationship during school is a waste of time. I believe you are young and should be free because most girl become obsessed with their boyfriends or their like their whole life. DO YOU rely on yourself not a man. Yea its fine to date or whatever but dont let it break your concentration focus on your career experience everything you can. A bf/gf will just hold you back I think
ReplyDelete@Amanda i agreeee 100%!!! some people just go way overboard with relationship in school honestly I think people use it as an excuse.
ReplyDelete@ marilyn yea thats how my volleyball team was for school they were super strict but for club they frowned upon it
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ReplyDeletethat is crazy i mean i can sorta relate but i have never had a relationship nearly that long. but all the other stuff i can relate to but that is crazy and we learn from our mistakes i guess but i am sorry
@Jodeci- I agree with you 100% There's those people who let the relation take them over. But then there's those significant few that have control.
ReplyDelete@Britney 3 years? And he decides one girl isn't enouch? I kick in the ______ should have been givin, where was that talk 3 years ago?
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